Gone are those days
of unrelenting grins.
Gone are those moments
of sweet confidences.
Now bound by fear
of approaching vacuum.
as time rushes.
Skips the reasons for togetherness,
as new contentment lies with the world.
to regain a life of the bond.
amelioration turns out annihilation
calling up distrust.
in my deserted days
that mourns on memories.
The mind is numbed,
tangled with riddles.
The mirror reflects
Hope, black turns red soon,
hope, the fragrance fills the air,
May venus bless us again,
to regain our mirth,
People have an apathetic trend of guiding others towards ecstasy by advising them to be social, do what you like to do, go out more, make friends, and many more. But, if you agonize your emptiness, at first, you have to understand few fundamental things.
- Loneliness is a feeling, not a fact.
- You are not the only human being who is going through this.
- Everyone doesn’t need to understand you.
- It is okay if you are unable to express yourself.
- The only one who can help you to get over this feeling is you, yourself.
Now, let’s discuss few easy things that will help you get over this feeling of emptiness.
1.Change your daily routine
Yes, the first thing you must do is change your daily routine. If you observe and retrospect your daily routine, you will see that you do nothing at all. Change your daily routine to something more productive, a routine that will involve your hobbies and other activities.
2.Start using journals
It is not possible for someone going through a widespread feeling called loneliness to socialize with others and even with family and friends. You can befriend a journal anytime, to keep notes of what exactly makes you feel sad, what plans you have, what changes you want in your life, and how far you are working on it, or to make notes of your progress and appreciate yourself every day.
3. Write your heart out
One thing that loneliness causes is Alexithymia, which means not being able to express oneself verbally. The time when you feel like you cannot talk, or you are unable to make the person in front of you understand what exactly you want to say. Just write it out, write every day. You will gradually see the change in yourself.
4. Be productive
I know you have heard this a lot, from your parents and teachers. Imagine starting your day with a workout and a giant mug of coffee, then spending your entire day reading your favorite book, or by drawing or writing something you wanted to do for a long time, or watching a Harry Potter movie or F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
You will notice that you will wake up the next day with that same energy.
5. Keep your room clean
Keeping your room clean actually helps you get over any nature of bad feeling. Try to decorate your room with drawings you have made or put up pictures or quotes on the wall that makes you happy and motivates you daily.
Those are the few easy steps that will help you distract yourself from the thoughts of loneliness.
6. Change your group:
You need to your group of friends. When you are going through loneliness, you should change yourself and everything around you for your own good. Try to talk to others, make friends through social media. If your existing friends have not attempted to make you feel better about your loneliness, then it’s time to look out for better company.
7. Talk to people who feel like you:
Share your thoughts that make you feel unhappy and lonely, with the people who feel just the same as you do because they will have nothing to advise you. Let the sonder sink in. When you start sharing your thoughts or your story with others, try to be a good listener as well. Listen to whatever they have to say and eventually you will realize that your thoughts and feelings are nothing in front of their thoughts and story.
7. Be kind to others:
It is not easy to stay in a good mood but try to listen to others and help others through their problems. If you help others, be kind to them, generously talk to them, realize that their happiness, smile, and the way they will greet you by saying, “Thank you” with such genuine gratitude will make you feel better as well. So, always be kind to others thus you are being kind to yourself.
8. Be curious about everything around you:
You might have heard a lot that curiosity increases your knowledge. In order to distract you from those feeling of emptiness or loneliness try to be curious about everything. If you read a book or have attended a class on a particular novel, try to know more. Try to search about the author and his life and the situation in which they have written that particular novel or story.
When you are curious about other subjects or topics, you would not have the time to think about your feelings or loneliness that you are going through.
9. Focus on your needs and not on the sad thoughts:
Needs can be walking under a starry sky or going on a self date, or meeting a school friend who was your best friend in school or meeting your grandparents who are away from you.
Always remember it is only you who can motivate you. Any type of small change can get you out from this feeling of loneliness. Whenever you feel that you are lost or out of track try out these few steps. It is not necessary that these particular steps can help you; you can have your own way of getting out of this widespread feeling.
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About the author
I'm doing ma graduation in english literature.I belong to kerala basically.
Writing has been my passion since my childhood.There are certain things which can't be orally communicated.But such expressions n emotions can be penned out.I believe writers can change the world
"pen is mightier than the sword"