Varsha Vallarian

One of the many things that 50% of our life depends on is the fun we have crush on somebody. This is one of those things that doesn’t get old with time. However old you are – 15 or 50, you’ll still always have a secret crush on somebody that only you know about or maybe your closest squad!

I can, without a doubt, assure you that you’ve had at least two to three crushes to date, including that person you studied within kindergarten, to the coaching class teacher.

Now you remember, don’t you?!!

But do you know the further steps to follow not to make it weird between you and your crush? If you don’t, here it is.

Well, there is nothing much to do! Just learn how to be friends with your crush!

I know what you’re thinking, isn’t it “It’s easy for you to say!” Right! I know it is quite hard, but does try these little tricks, you’ll be surprised! 

P.S.: First of all, make sure you do have a crush on that person you think you have a crush on! I’m kidding!

Let’s get started! Shall we? 

1. Is It Love?

You might be thinking why I’ve included this for ‘how to be friends with your crush’! It is because this is one of the most important things you need to cross out from the list before doing the rest of it. You know why? Because first of all, you need to make sure that all you have is a simple crush on this person.

This might be so hard for you to understand in the beginning, as it is pretty hard to sort out what kind of feelings you have for a person. 

For you to understand whether you like a person or not, you don’t need the help of an online quiz or a YouTube video! If you love a person, ask your heart! If your heart beats a little faster than usual, you’ve got your answer (or a heart attack!). 

Everything that your life is and life will be is in your hands. The choices, your dreams, the people you choose to love, everything! Whatever your choice might be, may it be good or bad, it will still be your life, and you have to live it, you have got to love it.

Now, if you have figured out that the tingling feeling was love, do not be afraid to dial out that number (since everybody is locked up in their homes) and confess! 

If it is hard for you to do it, get drunk (Note: I’m joking! In case you didn’t get it) and do it, the results will still be the same, but yet, you will have a reason to spill out if the person asks you something, and that will save you from the embarrassment of utter rejection. I was just kidding!

But even if you do get rejected, don’t be too sad about it because maybe what awaits you is far better than what you chose! 

Now, if you are sure that it is just a crush, you can successfully move on to the next step on ‘how to be friends with your crush.’ 

2. Hi! How Are You?!!

‘How to be friends with your crush,’ you ask? What better way than to start a friendly conversation with him/her! 

I know this sounds a bit challenging, but there are ways to start a simple conversation. Here’s how: 

• If s/he is your classmate, you could start by asking for his/her notebooks or maybe a pen, which will begin a conversation eventually.
• Ask her a doubt regarding something (if you don’t have one, make something up!).
• “Accidentally” bump into her (you should probably not try this!) and say sorry. The chances of this method to work are little, but you’ve got to decide what you’ve got to try right!  

If at all this method doesn’t work for you, you should make it work. Because if you want to know how to be friends with your crush, you have got to make an effort, while I walk you through how you can do the same.

Think! Plan! Execute! 

3. Do You Like That? Me Too!!

This is one of the best ways on how to be friends with your crush. Not only your crush, but this method is also proven to be effective in this field of friend-making/finding whatever you like to call it! The results are unbelievable! 

If you look closely into the list of every friend you had, you will find out that every one of them has something in common with you. You know why? Because we tend to be more close with the people whom we can talk to more and relate with.

Just like that, try to know more about your crush, his likes, dislikes, interest, and things that matter to him (PS: Do not stalk him!). 

Start a casual conversation with him based on the information you have collected and initiated a mission. 

Some of the best topics to research are his/her favorite TV shows, music band, books, actors, movies, or singers. If he is a science buff, start a conversation on his ideal scientist, branch of science, or his favorite science podcast. 

This is one of the significant methods on how to be friends with your crush! I know it is not easy, but I like it when I try something and failing, rather than not doing anything at all.

4. Be Yourself!

Yes! You’ve heard it right. 

When you try hard to prove or simply act that you are something more than what’s on the outside, you are trying too hard, because you tried to change yourself! 

And that my friends are denial towards oneself. Thinking that you are not good enough for anybody or anything is significant denial, and doubting your capabilities is one thing you should not do. 

‘How to be friends with your crush?’ you ask! These, my friends are one of the critical points! But why? 

Because if you are not yourself, you are lying to yourself and your crush about your personality, character, and your whole structure as a person with his mind!

You need to note this little tip when you initially start your conversation (previous point) by bringing up your commonalities because as the conversation continues and you run out of things to say, you might agree to you crush more or lie about what you like and dislike. 

You might think that when you agree with a person more, he might instantly like you! But guess what it is an entirely nonsensical thing to say. People like the fact that you are ‘you’ and not when you pretend to be somebody you are not. 

So when you tell him you like F.R.I.E.N.D.S make sure you do love it, if not, tell him why you dislike it (I know nobody dislikes F.R.I.E.N.D.S, still!).

5. A Friend in Need Is a Friend Indeed.

This is the final and the most crucial method on how to be friends with your crush! I’m not going to beat around the bush here! As the heading suggests, you need to be a ‘friend in need to be a friend indeed.’ 

But how? How to be friends with your crush? He is your crush for goodness’ sake! That’s why you’ll have to scroll over to the first point, but don’t! I’ll just repeat what I’ve mentioned there! It’s just that, first of all, you need to make sure that all you have towards that person is just a crush. Now how do we do that? 

Here are some suggestions: 

• have a friendly conversation or a debate session with yourself, the subject being your crush (of course!). 
• If that does not help, you can always try making a list of reasons why you like him/her! Kind of like a ‘pros and cons’ list (kind of like the one Rachel and Ross makes!). If the list looks like you are in love with the person, do what I’ve mentioned in the first point.
• Now, this is the most important thing! If you want to find out if you’re actually in “love,” please do not ask your friends’ opinions! That will lead to more complications. Believe me! If you have friends who know what they are talking about, do consult them, and make your own decisions! Only you know what’s best for you. 

Now, if this is not your case, and you want to know how to be friends with your crush, this is it! 

Be there for him/her! That is it! It is just that simple. Some people act as if they care only to be close with their crushes expecting more than just friendship. And that just messes up the whole relationship with the person. If you want to be his friend, try to be there whenever and wherever you are needed! Be loyal and build a strong friendship. But if you want more than that, you need to tell them how you feel. 

Hang out, chill, discuss, talk, get to know each other better! Most importantly, be a friend!

Thinking about one thing and doing another is not the right decision; it will just turn out to be messier than you think it will turn out to be! 

So, folks, this is the ultimate guide on how to be friends with your crush. I hope everything is clear! So the next time you approach your crush, remember these five points! Now, if that is hard to remember, hold out your hand and look at it and remember me! You’ll eventually remember these fantastic ways on how to be friends with your crush!

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