[Heba Naaz]

Derek’s character in grey’s portrays as neurosurgeon as much as people give hate to Izzie’s character and others, people lay low during Derek. The realization that Derek is not all that was during my rewatch of grey’s, how series of things happen and somehow he shuts himself or be a sort of meanie. When Meredith was dealing with her mother’s death and everything, instead of being supportive, he said that a random girl offering him drinks was his highlight of the week, also how his throws the ring, flinging it with a bat when Mer comes to console him.

I am not being hateful but his character was more realistic than a fictional one, he is a beige flag, not green, that is for sure. what is your say in it?

[unagisensei55]

You’ve nailed it with that “beige flag” comment—Derek’s not the perfect McDreamy he’s hyped up to be. While he had his swoon-worthy moments (the hair! the ferryboats!), his flaws often screamed louder on a rewatch. That “highlight of my week” comment during Meredith’s lowest point? Yikes. And don’t get me started on the Harvard ring fiasco. Who does that? And let’s not forget him choosing Addison over Meredith, which was complicated, but how he handled it was downright messy. Instead of owning his actions, he doubled down on the guilt trip and made Meredith feel like the problem. Classic gaslighting move. And then criticizing her for how she tried to heal herself? Unfair.

What makes Derek more “realistic” is exactly what frustrates viewers: he’s messy, moody, and sometimes selfish, like a lot of real-life partners. But that realism makes his character deeper—because relationships, even the iconic TV ones, aren’t all sunshine and post-it vows.

Still, I think Derek gets a pass too often because he’s Derek Shepherd. A charming neurosurgeon with a god complex? Check. Redeemable enough for fans? Debatable. Definitely not a green flag though.