Dating is all about getting to know a person you are attracted to. Love, at first sight, might be a thing, but it is only when two people get to spend time together, they actually begin to understand each other. The time required for two people to get to know each other varies from one couple to another. It can range from a couple of weeks to a few years. The more time you spend with each other, more you know how compatible you two really are.
Some say that there’s code to follow. Do no kiss on the first date. Wait before calling. The third date means sex. No! It does not need to be like that. It’s not supposed to be so mechanical and half-hearted. Love is all about emotions; rules do not matter.
But then, emotions misguide us at times. How do we figure out stuff without some kind of external help? How do we know if they are the one or if it’s just not gonna happen? If it’s the latter, no amount of dates will help. The former, though, does not really care for the number of dates. It’s meant to happen. So, how does one figure this out? It’s simple. Ask yourself a few questions.
- Does this person make you happy?
If you are stressed, sad and anxious because of them, it’s time to let go. The one for you should make you happy. That does not mean that there won’t be conflicts. But they will help you through them. The one for you will meet you halfway.
- Can you be yourself around this person?
It’s okay for the first few dates to be awkward. Both of you are careful and act too nice. As time goes on, the pretense vanishes. If it does not, it can get tiring. They should accept you for whoever you are you need to do the same.
- Do you see yourself growing with this person?
The person should motivate you to be better than you are now. You should never feel like you cannot talk to them about your goals are dreams. You learn from this person and they learn from you, that is a sign of being with the one.
- Do you see a future with this person?
If you are not sure if you can spend more than a few years with him, maybe this is not the real deal.
- Is the person there for you when you need them?
The person should care for you enough to be with you when you need them. Making excuses every time is a bad sign.
- Does this person reciprocate your feelings?
It can always be one sided. Maybe you two are not on the same page. Communication is really important. You both need to tell each other what you feel. Otherwise, one of you might end up getting hurt. If you two do not communicate much, it would be hard to stay with each other.
Ask yourself these questions. If you get an affirmative answer, you are with the one!
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