Being deceived by the people closest to you is a painful human experience. One that we usually don’t even wish upon our worst enemies.
When they backstab you, it can lead to embarrassment, shame and most importantly – hurt. Plus the fact that it’s usually all done behind your back makes things even worse.
But how do you know if someone’s a backstabber? Well my friend, in this blog we’re going to try to help answer that for you.
Here’s 7 Reasons Why You Should Be Careful Who You Trust
Let’s get started!
1. Understanding Why They Do It
Backstabbing is when someone undermines another person, usually a friend or acquaintance, without their knowledge.. This results in the wounded party feeling betrayed and hurt. Whether it be sabotaging their efforts or spreading rumors about them.
Recognizing these traits of a backstabber will allow you to protect new friends and yourself from being hurt by them. Some signs include talking negatively about others and giving fake compliments.
You’ll also notice that they are jealous of your achievements (and might even go out of their way to sabotage them) as well as really care about appearances.
2. Recognizing Backstabbers
2.1 Talking Badly About Others
One of the most evident signs of a backstabber is their tendency to speak poorly of others. This might occur inin the form of gossip, criticism, or demeaning remarks made behind someone’s back. It demonstrates a lack of integrity and respect for privacy.
2.2 Giving Backhanded Compliments
Backhanded compliments are another red flag. These ostensibly positive remarks are actually designed to belittle or embarrass the recipient. They often leave one feeling confused and insulted rather than appreciated.
2.3 Flirting with Your Significant Other
Disrespecting relationship boundaries by flirting with a friend’s partner is a severe breach of trust. It not only shows disregard for the friend’s feelings but also undermines the sanctity of the relationship.
2.4 Being Jealous of Your Other Friends
Jealousy can consume a person and taint their actions. When a friend exhibits envy towards your other friendships, it may be indicative of insecurity and possessiveness, which are unhealthy traits in any relationship.
2.5 Exaggerating Your Mistakes
A friend who constantly magnifies your mistakes is likely trying to undermine or break your confidence. This tactic is often used by backstabbers to make themselves appear superior or to shift attention away from their own flaws.
2.6 Sabotaging Your Work
Deliberately hindering your professional or personal efforts is a malicious act. Such sabotage is a clear sign of antagonism and resentment from a person who is supposed to be supportive.
2.7 Making Plans Without You
Exclusion from social plans can be subtle yet hurtful. If you find yourself frequently left out of gatherings or events, it may signal a deliberate effort by someone to isolate you from your social circle.
3. Protecting Yourself from Them
3.1 Being Cautious with Personal Information
It’s important that be careful who you trust and don’t overshare! They can use this against you and give them insight on how to get under your skin!
3.2 Watch How Deeply Involved You Get With People
Don’t get too heavily involved with people because then they have the capability to manipulate or mistreat you!
By keeping our information secure, we can be more confident and focus on ourselves. This means we won’t do anything to damage our well-being in a relationship.
3.2 Watching out for Changes and Rumors
In social settings, being careful with changes is important. It brings attention to whispers and rumors which helps you detect any suspicious activity early.
Lastly, if something feels off, it usually is. Trusting your gut will prevent you from being caught off guard when everyone else seems to be doing what’s best for you.
3.3 Being Careful with Relationships
Don’t trust people right away, not everyone has good intentions and taking the time to talk and figure someone out can prevent a backstab later on in life.
One way of doing this with fake people is by staying friends before getting into a relationship with them. Doing so will allow you to become aware of red flags that’ll appear when interacting with one another.
Trust should never be rushed, jumping into a commitment without understanding how either person really feels about it will only lead to disappointment in the future.
3.4 Staying Connected and Informed
Establishing relationships with trust creates safety between both parties.
It also makes it easier to identify red flags if communication lines are open at all times as these allow individuals to notice inconsistencies in each other’s behavior.
On top of that, having connections from outside provide an extra layer of defense against backstabbers because they share their own experiences and insights which come in handy when dealing with betrayals and secrets.
4. Dealing With Backstabbers
4.1 Being Kind and Calm
Reacting kindly and calmly when betrayed stops the situation from escalating into something much worse than it already is, it shows maturity and strength of character.
4.2 Not Retaliating
Although it might feel good to get even with them, going down that path just causes bad actions leading to bad consequences which could end up hurting us more than it does them.
4.3 Seeing the Situation Clearly
Take a step back and look at the situation for what in truth it is, not how you want it to be. Understanding the reason behind someone’s actions can help guide you through solving the issue properly.
4.4 Confronting the Backstabber
If needed, talking to whoever caused your past pain can provide closure. However, make sure you choose your words wisely as picking them correctly conveys feelings better and ultimately leads to a more productive conversation.
Closing Thoughts
The way we address backstabbers matters. When dealing with someone who’s betrayed us, we should be careful and considerate but we shouldn’t put ourselves second.
To minimize the effect of backstabbers on our lives there are some things we can do though. Keep an eye out for what’s happening around us and build relationships with good people, they’ll let us know or maybe even shield us from getting hurt again in the future.
And remember to focus on yourself no matter what! Genuine people will always say be careful who you trust when there supporting anything you try to achieve.
So, nurture your inner voice and protect yourself against fake people
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