The G.D:- A Discussion on Love
I love you
Not only for what you are.
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you
Not only for what you have made of yourself
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
could have done.
To make me good,
And more than any fate
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it,
By being yourself.
After reading this poem, my friends and I got divestiture from the typical conversation like, “Have you seen Neha? She has been behaving so hubris because now she has a rich boyfriend.” Or “wow!! So pretty earrings!! Where did you buy this? Oh!! It’s just a gift.” instead, we started discussing love. What love really is and what it is perceived as by society and by us.
Tanya, my best friend, started the discussion with the ultimate question of all time -“what actually is love?” After a short pause, she started speaking again ( In a manner as if she were a famous speaker whose favorite subject is – LOVE. ) “We have been through this stuff like; Love is the greatest feeling in the world. Love is the most beautiful thing in the world. To Love is to sacrifice and so on. The typical definition of love has been prevailing for ages. But now the scenario has been changed. Though the definition of love has changed, the gesture of love has remained the same.”
As soon as she completed – Maya, my adorable friend took the conversation in her hand and started speaking with a daydreaming look in her eyes (maybe she recalled all the sweet memories of her boyfriend) “love is not about doing good things together; it’s about doing all the crazy shits together. It’s not about the early morning “love you” messages; It’s about late-night WhatsApp conversations. It’s not about waiting for the phone call; it’s about waiting for the last seen to into a double tick, blue tick and finally “typing…” “Love means carrying out all the madness, craziness, stupidness with your partner with great enthusiasm. And yeah! It feels good.” added my friend Astha.
Suddenly the most studious friend of mine, Devanshesh, took the lead of the conversation and started speaking deliberately.” You know, guys, (with a move of adjusting his already properly placed glasses on his nose) Love has different types. Here, it’s not about Love for parents, friends, a partner, etc. According to my experience, love has two kinds.
1) Mature Love
2) Sophomoric Love
Sophomoric love needs explanations; mature love understands the situation. Sophomoric love wants attention; mature love gives respect. Sophomoric love is stubborn; mature love is thoughtful. Sophomoric love wants to listen to romantic stuff, and mature love says bitter things for good. Sophomoric love always wants to stay with each other, hold hands, mature love lets you go to grow as an individual. The way I let Shivani go.”
At this point, he had gotten really emotional.
So I took the command in my hand and started speaking like an anchor with a mike in her hand. ” You are lucky that you have felt these feelings, even if it was for a short period of time. But to be in love with the one who loves you the way you do is the “pivotal point” of life. When two people are in love; They are just madly and deeply in love with each other. They understand each other, and they crave for each other. They care, they enjoy, they love being themselves with each other. The idea of falling in love is itself so lovely.” I was flowing with words enthusiastically.
“It’s cute to know that the status of someone is for you, even if it’s not a very romantic one. It’s a heart-melting feeling to be proposed by someone on his knees. It’s amazing to have an unexpected romantic message. At the starting of a relationship, everything is pretty good. The meetings, the surprise of chocolates or Teddy bears, dinner dates, and everything. The main thing starts after few months of the relationship. Likewise with Akshanshi.”
Now Akshanshi the most reserved girl ( one who is reserved in front of the outsiders only, though we know how ‘so-called reserve’ she was)
“If one wants to make the relationship long-lasting, then there is an art to be learned to love. Love should be mature. There should be sufficient trust between the two people in the relationship. There should be courage and boldness in love. There should be openness to say, “Stop talking to her. I am jealous.” And that level of transparency which says, “Baby, will you please check the text message and Reply on my behalf!” it’s not like pure love is not to expect anything,” – is all impractical.
All these kinds of love stories exist only in movies. Expecting too much is never goood, but at least you can expect a little surprise on your anniversary despite the hectic schedule. You can expect a tight hug after a long restless day. To expect something is not always about being selfish. It’s better to say things directly than to be frustrated about keeping it all inside you. It’s always better to fight than letting misunderstandings arise in your mind. It’s always better to express than to see your loved ones get away from you.” she was about to cry, so I put my hand around her shoulder and started like I was announcing.
” Love never makes you sacrifice anything. True love is to discover the future together by overcoming all the disparagement of life. Love can not hold you within boundaries. It gives you the wings to fly away and still has the faith and auspiciousness that you will come back to it. Love is to be thankful for what you are because of it. How beautiful you have become because of it. How the enormous change has come in your life just because of it. ” I too didn’t know that I was so articulated.” Love is to see the future with each other after evaluating present possibilities. To love is to be insane for spending the whole life together. To love is to desire the last breath in your beloved’s arms. To love is to be auspicious for the brighter carries and life of each other.” And at the end, I concluded like a vocalist,” To love is to make your loved one better and even better…”
We had never had such discussions ever before, but sometimes it makes us feel better talking about something beyond our understanding.