Human beings are social animals. We cannot really stay alone for long. We are dependent on others and need their company. Does that mean we need to stick with people all the time? Not at all. One needs to give solitude a chance and see for themselves how it makes them a better person.
Most of us feel insecure when we are left alone. We feel like all eyes in the room are judging us, laughing at us. It’s almost like a sin to not have someone to be with at all times. We wonder how people who stay alone manage to do that. We see them reading a book or playing games or just sitting there and wondering. The first thought that comes to our mind is that they are so content with themselves. However, we laugh that feeling off by commenting on how lonely that person is.
There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. A person can be alone by their own choice. Loneliness is when someone wants to be around others but is forced to be with themselves. While loneliness can be depressing, being alone is actually a good thing.
No one wants to be lonely. To evade that, people do things they do not like just to be with others. But then, doing something that one doesn’t want makes them sad too. Somehow, we have been conditioned to believe that the former is worse. Being the popular kid, being surrounded by people all the time is considered to be cool.
While there is no harm to that, we need to understand that being alone is not a bad thing either. While we can learn from being with others, we can learn by being alone too. With no one around distracting them, one can actually think and realize things on their own.
The fear of being alone is dangerous and needs to be faced as soon as possible. So, go ahead. Take yourself out for a movie date, buy yourself that burger, go to that bookstore- alone. You may feel the judging eyes on you but they are actually jealous of the way you are content with yourself. Do not wait for others to make you happy all the time. At the end of the day, you are the only one who can save yourself.
