Every person has their own set of goals and dreams. No matter how different we are from one another, it starts with certain planning and discipline. Trying to mould our lifestyle, habits and mind to achieve our goal is necessary. Nothing in the world comes easy. You have to be dedicated to your passion, work on whatever it is that you want to attain. Seekers are finders, as one seeks, they will find a way to change their dreams into reality.
It is inevitable that whatever we want to do, we have to do it alone. We have to do it on our own. We need to have a clear goal and the self-motivation needed to get there. It is also possible that sometimes we deviate from our goals and give up.
Why do we give up?
What are the qualities or habits that grow within us that are more powerful than our passion and affect us so much? Due to such habits, we will always be stuck in one place and will not move ahead.
Here are the 5 habits to escape from, to succeed in life:
1) Habits: Fear- Lose it!
Among seven deadly sins, one should be this, fear. At least then, people will stop getting scared about almost everything. Right from having nothing to getting into a lottery, everything is fearful to us humans. The place where this fight from fear starts is our minds. It is absolutely crazy when you realize the pattern of fear and grief creeping into our thoughts and mind. We have to stop fearing the results and rather focus on what we are doing. Rest is to be left as someone or something which is not under our control.
Fear is like a chain around the neck. You can only move as far as the chain lets you. In other words, it can also be referred to as “caged freedom.” Fear of things will never let you take a full breath. Eliminating all kinds of fear in life is impossible, but you can overcome some of your fears through courage and dedication. Only then will you realize that beyond those fears lies victory.
To be successful in life, you have to overcome a few of those fears necessarily. After that, you will realize that, between your dreams and your achievements, fear was the most difficult barrier to overcome but the only barrier that was stopping you from being successful.
2) Habits: Mind- Train it, mind your mind
Our mind is our master and also our servant. It entirely depends on how we train it. We need to understand whether we want our minds to control us or if we want to control the mind. It is sometimes very troublesome to try and quieten our thoughts. They keep wandering. They make us nervous, but really it is our minds that make our external situations way too difficult to cope up. Our minds can play these dirty tricks on us where even the smallest of obstacles look like a gigantic problem that cannot be solved.
AH! It is not really a good idea for success. Train your mind when it wanders, when you feel you are losing control. Take your mind where you want to see yourself to be.
The mind can be compared to an animal, wild and untamed. So your actions are pretty much out of your control. Only discipline and training can tame your mind and return the reins of the remote of your mind to your hands. In simpler words, if you have control over your mind, you can almost achieve anything and everything. If you are clear in your mind about doing something and settle for it, no one and nothing can stop you. If you think you cannot do something, then nothing can make you do it. That is the power of your mind. So if you want to achieve success in something, just set your mind to it, and keep trying till you make it to the top.
3) Habits: Negativity & Nagging- Dump it
Being negative is a human tendency to give excuses to oneself, excuses that stop you from trying harder. Complaining so far has fetched you unpleasantness and withdrawal of peace. The more you consume these, the more you screw up everything. It is such a deep pit that you cannot really come back clean once you go in. It would help if you omitted negativity around you. Whenever you get negative thoughts or feelings, transcend immediately into a positive space so that you can find a getaway to optimism sooner or later.
Negative thoughts are like poison to the mind. It does no good; rather, it messes up the mind and ruins things. It is impossible to avoid negativity, but we should try our best to avoid such a toxic aura. Remember, negativity does not get you to places; optimism does! Hence, if you want to achieve something in life, be optimistic but a realist. Keep your hopes high, and keep fighting for what you want. Optimism is like the fuel that drives you towards your goal. Pessimism only pulls you back from fully achieving your dreams.
4) Habits: Negligence- Never think about it
Negligence is a ferocious act that one can make in one’s path to success. It is alright to make mistakes, but to give up on your dreams altogether is something that you should totally avoid. People can be ignorant and adamant, but not negligent. With negligence, one proves their lack of dedication towards their destination.
Negligence is like a tire puncture of a running car. It stops you in your tracks, and you cannot reach the endpoint. Negligence in your work slides you away from your goal and makes it difficult to achieve success. To be successful, one cannot afford to be reckless and irresponsible. One needs to be mature and responsible enough to do what has to be done. You cannot let important things slip away from your mind due to negligence.
5) Habits: Emotions- Do not get too entangled
Both success and failure are in our hands. Sometimes we fall, yet we get up. If we get carried away by failure, it will lead to depression; if we get carried away by success, pride sneaks in. Have value for both. Appreciate both learning and yearning.
Too much emotion in work can cause problems and can keep you away from success. That also does not mean that you should work like a robot to be successful. Emotions should be kept in check when you want to achieve something. Keeping your work life separated from the rest would be a good idea to start with. That is how you can keep your emotions from getting entangled with your work towards success. Failure and success should never be treated with extreme emotions as they both are poisonous for the mind. Failure comes with lessons, and that is what you should take away from it. Success comes with expectations and sets a standard. It would be best if you never flew off the ground while soaring high up in the sky.
By avoiding these 5 habits, which most of us are used to, we can assure 100% success in the days to come. At least, one can definitely see the flaws in their preparations and move closer to their dreams. Every path is tough but not impossible; in the end, it is worth it.
Success can sometimes be easy, but it isn’t easy to be successful most of the time. Failures should be treated as stepping stones, and that is how one can walk up the staircase to success. Most things do not come easy. Life is a rollercoaster ride, and you should enjoy and learn from the ups and downs.
Do let us know below if you want to add another habit that you feel one should do away with to succeed in life. Keep working hard, and we wish you that you are successful in your future endeavors.
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Writing is my passion and motivation as it inspires my own soul as well as others. Poet by heart. Blogger & avid reader. Woman with Wanderlust.