Is it challenging to maintain friendships or make friends as an adult? I’m in my 20s, and I don’t think it’s hard to make friends because friendships are bonds you have already made since childhood, which continue as you grow older – this was what I believed until my childhood friends took a different turn in their lives and got busy. Also, this perspective of mine changed when I met a friend who is in her 30s. I never thought that maintaining friendships could become an essential part of life where you have to show your effort. For me, it was always like friendships never break and are just meant to get strong over time—but it never happens that way, does it?
Further, as I got to know her more, I observed that she had very few friends, and she was very much content with that. People drift apart, and that’s not a new thing. Also, when we grow older and climb the ladder of life, we meet new friends at different places like gyms and offices who become our temporary friends. And unlike childhood, these friends also get it about keeping things casual—and that’s the best part about it.
Establishing strong bonds with many friends once we are adults can seem a little unrealistic because we will have learned life’s lessons, and one of those includes – nothing and no one is permanent. A strong friendship is forged over time, not just within a few days or months. This may not be the case for everybody because there are instances in life where some people whom you just met months ago can comfort you in the ways that people you have known for ages can’t! – My new friend agreed with this thought.
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So, I asked how she maintained her bond with friends along with a busy schedule. Though, as an adult, I don’t think people have time to do this, she told me some excellent tips and strategies she follows.
1. Staying in Touch / Communication
It’s essential to communicate with your friends as much as possible. Nowadays, social media plays a role in staying connected, but it is pretty negligible when you do not know about your friends and what’s going on in their lives. From a mere phone call and ask how you have been to what’s going on, sometimes, the conversations go to deeper levels, especially in the case of older friendships, and that’s what keeps your friendships intact.
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2. Visting Friends
Nothing can be better than visiting your old friends and getting a chance again to relive your old memories. Nowadays, everybody has a busy schedule, but it’s our choice to make an effort and catch up with our friends, especially if we are somewhere closer to them.
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3. Plan Group Trips with Your Friends
Everybody takes a break from their work life, which can be exhilarating and fun if the break is spent with our friends. Reliving your college memories and spending hours and days together can be the best way to maintain your friendship. To do this, planning group vacations is one of the best options.
However, it’s the nature of time that it passes, and people also pass; what stays are the memories made together, and I think most of the memorable pieces of life come from a solidified bond of friendship. Though these strategies worked for her, what works for you? Do let me know!
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