By now, every sugar baby knows that there’s really no such thing as “happily ever after” when it comes to relationships. The day you and your sugar daddy decide to commit to each other on a long-term basis marks the beginning of the next phase of your life together, not an indefinite end to problems and challenges.

But while “happily ever after” might be one of the more common myths, it’s definitely not the only one. Here are a few super persistent ones even the most enlightened sugar babies might still buy into.

• Marriage is the correct next step for long-term couples

Although many sugar daters have long ago figured out that relationships can be anything you want them to be, there are still those out there who think any couple who’s been together a while ought to be thinking about marriage. Marriage is great for sugar couples who feel equally invested in the idea, but it’s by no means a necessity.

Marriage is an option for long-term couples who want to be together indefinitely, not a requirement.

• Children bring a couple together

Like marriage, parenthood can be a wonderful experience for many couples. And it can be something that brings two people a lot closer together. But it’s definitely not for everyone – especially people who are very attached to their freedom and general sense of autonomy. 

Children require a nearly overwhelming amount of time, energy, and sacrifice. If they’re not something you and your sugar daddy are up for – regardless of how long you’ve been together and how much you love each other – they could actually ruin your relationship. So definitely don’t assume they’re a must-do.

• A relationship should complete your life

The right relationship can be an incredible game-changer for any sugar baby, but it’s not a magic elixir that will fix everything wrong with your life. Still, so many people believe that’s what a relationship is supposed to do – complete a person’s life and meet each and every one of their needs moving forward.

No one is meant to get everything they need from just one person or situation. The right sugar daddy definitely can (and should) support you as you pursue wholeness on your own. But he’s not the answer to all your problems, nor should you expect him to be.

• Established relationships don’t take effort

Every sugar baby probably knows someone who put all kinds of effort into themselves and their approach to dating when they were single. But once they found themselves in an established long-term relationship, all that changed. It’s clear they now think effort is something that’s no longer necessary once you’ve successfully landed the person you’re after, and that’s a huge mistake many people make.

No one wants to find themselves in a relationship with another person who doesn’t think they’re worth looking good for or otherwise putting in a little effort, especially a sugar daddy. Sugar daters, as a rule, expect better from their partners, so consistent effort is critical.

• Truly close couples never grow apart

A good relationship is about more than just finding the right sugar daddy and building an incredible connection with him. Just as no two people ever stay the same as the years pass, neither do any two relationships. You’re going to change and grow as you get older, and so will your sugar daddy. It’s up to you to ensure your relationship grows and evolves with you.

That said, even very close couples who are deeply in love with and invested in one another need to take care of what they have if they’re serious about keeping their relationship healthy. Because couples who don’t grow together run the eventual risk of growing apart.

• The right relationship will always be easy

By now, you should be noticing a theme. No relationship, no matter how harmonious or happy, lets the two people involved off the hook when it comes to effort. Although no relationship should ever feel like a constant chore, they all take hard work and consistent effort – even when they’re longstanding.

It should absolutely feel like work that’s worth doing. But a sugar baby is only fooling herself if she thinks the right relationship will always be easy. Yes, it will be easy sometimes – maybe even most of the time. But there will also be times when challenges make staying together a lot harder.

Ultimately, there’s really no such thing as a relationship that’s so perfect and well-matched that there’s a true “happily ever after,” as most people define the term. But the good ones feel worth it anyway, even when things get tough. 

Last Updated on July 5, 2023 by Himani Rawat