The purpose of relationships is to effect lifelong companionship. It is not unusual that Romeos and Juliets abscond from their phones and pull down an iron curtain in their conversation at times. They are expected to continue their interaction, which is an inevitable element for those who do not wish to get rid of each other in the long run.
The ego that guides them to wait for the other to break the ice, mainly during fights, has invariably resulted in causing unforgettable physical “bruises” and fractures on the men-folks.
Relationships and Games
Here, taking up the role of a love guru (though I am still single), I would like to share how I reduced my hospital visits by accompanying my roommates. I believe those machos who read Economics and Political Science might have managed to put a cap on their first aid and medication expenses. Guess why? Yes, you are right. It’s none other than the numbers who come to their rescue.
Grabbing inspiration from John Forbes Nash (A Beautiful Mind fame) and considering romance as a game, I have diagnosed that the players (my friends) are suffering from Prisoner’s Dilemma. To be frank, my medication worked. The most challenging decision for the players (couples) to arrive at during strife is to resume the conversation.
This question keeps them dumb until the ‘notification LED’ blinks in their respective phones. More often than not, such “silent wars” have also led to the deletion of many “Janu(s)” and “meri Jan(s)” from the contact lists.
The games become more complex when the number of players in the contact list increases from “janu” to “Mera Dil∞.” The payoff matrix for the ‘ideal’ 2 x 2 chocolate love sagas in their rational decision-making is as follows.
1. The Game Theory Rules
Assuming player 1 and player 2 to be Romeo and Juliet, respectively, if he begins the talk while his love keeps mum, the former gains a better payoff ‘0’ than Juliet, who gets away with -1. The payoff for a situation wherein both are not ready to give their ego up and break the silence is ‘-2’ for each as it does not provide any utility; instead, a scar on their bond or a chance of eventual breakup.
2. The Tale of Relationships
He scores a 0 as he feels comfortable when he shifts his strategy because he initiated the conversation, which is better than what his opponent earns when she is still silent. She earns ‘-1’ owing to her slight relief over his approach.
However, it remains in ‘0’ as he is not completely satisfied since a one-sided initiative isn’t fruitful. So is the case for his love as well. She also receives a payoff of ‘0’ when her man is unwilling to open up against his point of ‘-1’.
Finally, a complete departure from their ‘silent mode’ provides a diametric opposite payoff of ‘1’ for each. None of them may have an incentive to change their strategy as it endows the maximum possible payoff among the given strategies.
Hence, the payoff ‘1, 1’ constitutes a Nash Equilibrium. Moreover, a rational player is expected to immediately eliminate a strictly dominated strategy. Here, the strategy ‘1, 1’, i.e., “talk, talk,” strictly dominates all other strategies when we draw a parallel between the strategy profiles regarding the payoff structure and applying the Iterated Elimination Strictly Dominated Strategy.
In extraordinary circumstances, such as if any of them do not last long, it is highly recommended to let the silence reign. Relationships work, but sometimes they don’t.
After all, it is always advisable for all young roses who desire a life together to set their ego aside and open WhatsApp without fail to usher in an era of healthy relationships rather than a fading line in a stream. My prescription works! Yes, I repeat.
Note- Silence for up to 1 hour is permitted during clashes. (Pun intended)
bro, a rattling inspiring one…. what an inspiring essay…..
Very Nice Adarsh!