Yesterday I was pretty lost in my thoughts- thoughts about how far I have come, my journey, and what makes my life so blessed. Thinking for a minute or two, the word that popped up in my mind was friend”.
Friendship is something that makes life worthwhile.
Wikipedia says Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between two or more people” I asked myself do I agree” I could not find an answer; there was no perfect definition of Friendship for me. I do not think any of us would ever come to the same conclusion about what Friendship is.
Friends are family.
They have always been by my side, no matter what. When I was a toddler, I had a friend- My mother. As I grew up, My sister was my best friend. As years passed by and I stepped out of my house to get in touch with this beautiful world, I met many people I could share my thoughts with, but only a few I could be weird with.
The ones who have stood by me in thick and thin, who acclaimed me whenever I endeavored to do something and uplifted me whenever I was in a malaise. People often ask me, “Who is your best friend” and to this, I always say I make friends, and they turn out to be the best. And why I say this is because all of them are special to me in their ways, and it would be unfair on my part If I just named one or two. I have acquired so many qualities from all of them over time.
Some taught me, and I taught some. Some have taught me patience; others had this confident air that made me confident Some taught me how to be calm always (I mean 3 years, and I have never seen him angry or even frowning), while some are my all-time partners in crime.
With some, I share my travel diaries, and then some make fun of me and annoy me to the level that I just wish to kill them if not today, then tomorrow ( but LOVE stops me.. sigh!!). Some are my counselors and my late-night studying mates and with some, there has been a 15 years bond and still going. Now, Why am I mentioning them? Because had they not been there, there would be no””‘. So Iat this moment, take this opportunity to honor the weirdness in them ( Kyunki har ek friend zaroori hota h).
The First Day
On the first day of school and I was scared to death. It was as if I was alone in this world, but then this girl Neha came to my rescue. Her sight is reminiscent of my childhood. Then I have my bro Kirti. We met in the fourth standard, and this crazy monster used to punch people a lot (I have been a victim too).
But now she has a grown-up girl and is in love. Tenth class, and we moved apart. I went to a different school. I was not in touch with both of them. A new bunch was waiting for me. I was warmly welcomed. Two years and hell many friends were made but no bond as great as theirs could ever be formed. School life ended, and college awaited us. Destiny had it together for us, and we landed in the same college (Boom). God knows who do we need and whom not.
True enough. College life begins. It turned out to be even more sublime than I thought. I met many people I can proudly call ”My people”‘. Who I know would never turn their back on me. Harsh (the debitor- the constant support). Had he not been there, my stupidity would never have attained such heights (Kudos bro).
Nidhi (my innocent baby- walking on the ramp, raising the oomph factor). Nidhi Dhyani ( My motivator, cheering me up since eternity, my study partner). I do not know if I would have passed my exams if she was not there. Atul (cracking jokes on time every time, the mood lifter :P). Vishal(the nice guy, helping one). And the list does not just end here it goes on and on and on…
I cherish every single moment I spend with them. They have given me a lifetime of memories. My birthdays would have been incomplete without them, and there would have been no surprises even. They have seen me at my worst and still choose to love me each day, every day, and they are my family that I have chosen for myself. They are the most reliable bunch I have.
Friends are the one who understands us even when no one else does. They are the ones you can always count on. They do not judge you, rate you, or lower your esteem. You can be totally yourself only when they are around. They always come to your rescue (Ps- cooking stories to save you from anyone and everyone). You tell your best friend that this XYZ person is the reason you are crying. And the next day you will be sitting there thinking of ways to hide the dead body (Alas! XYZ is no more).
You can do all sorts of disgusting things with them. Words are not needed to communicate with them, expressions are enough or the alien language that friends use to communicate They are the ones you can always torture whenever you get those random ideas about being a musician or an actor or how about a painter (woohoo.. Evil grin. You choose me buddy. Now live with the consequences).
They give you shoulder to cry ( of course the tissues too). They are the ones you can laugh like a hyena with. You beat them once and they will choke you to death (but, will take you to hospital too). (Ps- the above statements are subject to personal experience). I can’t imagine a day without them.
On the days of the result (the doomsday) when all our so-called relatives are busy showing unusual interest in our life (only to let us down), our friends are busy cheering us up or abusing us if we score good, when we said we would fail . So this one is for all my friends who turned me into a more mature person and the person I am today.
The treasure they are It’s the final year of college and I do not know what life has in store for us after these few months. I do not know where we all will be, whether we would be meeting or communicating on regular basis or not. But, One thing I know for sure wherever we may be we will always keep our memories alive.
We will always remember the golden rule of friendship” We are all in this together” Boyfriends and girlfriends change but friends do not. They are meant to stay,if not in our lives then certainly in our hearts forever. Friendship never dies. It has been said” Soulmates can even be found in a friendship” Indeed. I did find my soulmates.