Kriti Gupta is a Parenting Coach and Early Childhood Educator, who is passionate about easing motherhood. She also focuses on one-to-one sessions with mothers, to listen to their problems and help them by providing the right solution.
Kriti Gupta’s page on Instagram has a lot of insightful content pertaining to parenthood and bringing up children. She also provides personal sessions for new mothers to help them in their journey.
In her conversation with Icy Tales, she spoke on her journey in choosing this field, her opinion on equal parenting, some insights on old age and new age parenting along with some general tips to ease parenthood.
Q) What made you choose early childhood education along with being a parenting coach?
Kriti Gupta: I have a three-and-a-half-year-old son, but before that, I was professionally working for the past eight years. In 2019 I had my son and after that, it has been extensive research for me to give him some of the best inputs and everything related to raising a child.
While I was doing this, a lot of research went into it because I thought that I just don’t want to teach him to follow prevalent norms but I wanted to question those and understand the logic behind it.
We have been raising children for so many years and maybe deal with them in the wrong way. Through this journey, I understood that I am passionate about raising a kid and more about educating other parents who are with me on this journey.
I also formed a community of new parents, and currently, after three and a half years of me being a parent, I have a community of around 50 moms and dads on WhatsApp along with some organic followers on Instagram who are connected with me.
There are so many things that are essential when it comes to raising a child. So this gave me the joy of educating other parents and understanding this deeper.
Now I’m doing this full-time as my passion while also concentrating on my child’s growth; I don’t want to miss even a second of him growing up
Q) How important do you think it is to fill this gap between old-age and new-age parenting?
Kriti Gupta: It is very important because I know that a lot of us now many of us are living in a joint family. When we are living with grandparents, there is a lot of conflicts because we have been following some sort of norms. Nowadays we are being more aware and educated about a lot of things.
We do follow a lot of things which makes the grandparents feel a little offended. The thing is just to bridge that gap, make them understand and not disrespect them.
There is a tradition of feeding a newborn honey because people believe that it will give them a good start in life.
But let me tell you that giving baby honey, is very harmful because it causes botulism; it may also paralyze your kid.
So things like these are something that grandparents don’t know. So we need to bridge this gap of awareness in both generations.
I have also been actively doing 1 to 1 parent sessions where moms can just vent what they’re feeling. In these sessions, I just listen to them and guide them by telling them what’s wrong or right.
We need to be just respectful of the fact that grandparents are concerned for their children, but you need to bridge the gaps of differences.
Q) What do you have to say about equal parenting?
Kriti Gupta: Equal Parenting is the need of the hour and indeed we can’t define it. We have been raised in a culture like that, even if a father is visiting a pregnant wife, people say that your husband is very supportive.
But in reality, it doesn’t need to be glorified, he has to be there for his pregnant wife.
If you want your wife to support you in the finances of the house, you need to support her while raising the child. She is not a superwoman who can be everywhere right? If we see by nature, kids are more inclined toward the mother.
It is natural because when I gave birth to my child, it was me who had to leave my job. After all, my son needed me.
We need to give each other support in raising the child. The control is mostly with the woman for the household and for the kid, not because of any other reason but because by nature, women have that tendency to be the leader of the house.
Q) What tips do you have for parents to make their journey easier?
Kriti Gupta: Parenting is not a one-day match; it’s a destiny. You will learn every single day in your journey because your kid will teach you so many things in the world of parenting.
What I want to emphasize is that parents have to be more accommodating because scolding or screaming won’t help.
You need to be friendly with the child and understand his emotions at every level. If your kid is not eating food when he is ill, it’s okay because if you are sick, you also wouldn’t want to eat food right?
You need to always be available to him for discussions or to share things that he was feeling.
If he is not telling you things, you should reflect on why he lied or why is he scared of you. These little things will entirely change the game of parenting.
Because if you see, we were not very close with our parents but it is necessary to have that bond in today’s world.
A lot of people are going through depression because of mental health because their parents were not there to listen to them and solve their problems.
Parents should understand that it is not about authority, it’s about finding each other and walking through the path.
Kriti Gupta aims to help more mothers across the world and make their motherhood journey, an easier one. She is also working towards widening her community and spreading the knowledge of good parenting.
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