Riddhi Deorah is a certified parenting and life coach on a mission to help 100,000 mothers have peaceful motherhood. She also runs a page, Easy Parenting Hub, where she posts content on making motherhood easy for the mom and the child.
In her conversation with Icy Tales, Riddhi Deorah spoke about her journey, the parent-child dynamics, and her opinions on parenting today.
Q) Why did you choose to specialize in this field of parenting and life coaching?
Riddhi Deorah – Honestly, this was not something that I chose. It just so happened that as a first-time mother, I went through a lot of mess myself. And that’s the time when I surrendered to a few mentors, and I started my journey of learning about parenting. That’s when I get a very strong inner calling that I should also share what is working for other mothers and me.
It wasn’t easy to put myself out there because I’m very shy and private. But at that point, my willingness to help in school was very strong so that I could overcome my resistance. I started sharing small stories about my experience as a mother, what was working for me and what was not working for me, and many mothers resonated. And then one thing led to the other, and then there was no looking back.
So I got certified as a parenting expert and life coach and did a few international degrees in parenting. Now I have my digital school for mothers. It’s called Easy Parenting Hub, where I have a lot of digital content for mothers to help them.
Q) Why do you think life coaching is important in today’s generation?
Riddhi Deorah – I think life coaching has always been important, not just today but even in the past. It just helps you to live your life in a more organized way, and when I say organize, not just the things you do, but the internal dialogue you have with yourself all the time at every moment.
For me, it started by becoming a coach. When I began speaking to mothers, I realized that the problem was not mostly with the children, but actually, we needed a lot of help as mothers because we are going through so much. We have to play so many different roles, which can be overwhelming for a mother.
When there is so much happening, there is this natural tendency to complain, blame, get irritated and feel that you are being taken for granted. And that’s when I feel like life coaching plays a huge role. So when I started talking to mothers, I realized that I could not properly help them unless I had done the life assessment.
Now that I’m digging deep, I’m planning to do relationships because the dynamics between the parents also have a huge impact on the child. So I think it’s like a golden serenity where I help improve people’s lives and help parents effectively.
Q) You have 200+ happy parents and more than 250 workshops. So what exactly keeps you motivated to keep going forward?
Riddhi Deorah – I’m pumped up all the time because, as a mother, I went through a lot of mess, so I can feel what the mothers think. My whole mission is to help as many mothers as I can. So I don’t want to see a new mother in that space because I know there is a way out.
So even if I’m working for hours or doing whatever I’m doing, I never feel exhausted from the work that I do. If I’m not working, I feel very disoriented and restless. So I don’t like to call it to work, to be honest, because it’s just a lot of fun to read, write, share, help, and serve. So I think it’s, you know, it recharges me more than it exhausts.
Q) Being a parent yourself, what do you think you have learned from your child?
Riddhi Deorah – Yes, I think many things. Persistence would top the list. I feel as children, and we are very persistent. We do not give up easily and keep asking if we want something. We keep asking until we get it or trying until we make it happen. So I think more persistence is one thing I’ve learned from my son.
And, of course, as a mother, I learned to be more patient, tolerant, and flexible in my approach. I understand that, as humans, we can have a lot of expectations, but just like our own way of living, our children have their state. So we must give them that space.
Kids also think very out of the box; they are very creative. Sometimes seeing their creativity, parents will be like, why can’t I be like that? What is stopping me from thinking like that? And I think it’s because of the way we’ve been conditioned, because of past experiences and the labels that people put on us to be a little hesitant when it comes to thinking freely. But kids are very free-spirited and won’t shy away from expressing whatever they’re thinking.
They also have a lot of energy and know how to celebrate their wins. They’ll win a small race and celebrate by telling 10,000 people they won. My son goes to football lessons in the morning, and he comes back and tells me how many goals he scored and demonstrates how exactly he scored.
As a mother, I’m thinking, can I feed him something, he must be exhausted, but he is just so high on and showing me how everyone scored goals if I had to summarize persistence, creativity and how to celebrate and be high on energy.
Q) Do you think a parent’s role is a cut above the kids, or do they complement each other?
Riddhi Deorah- I think in the parent-child dynamics, the responsibility is more on the parent. The weight is slightly more tilted towards the parent because we are intellectually and emotionally mature enough to handle the situation. If we are husband and wife, we should have equal roles and make the relationship work within the parent-child dynamics. enough
If a situation happens, I think it is a parent who has to step up and stake out rather than expecting the child to be the person in the equation. In terms of authority, I don’t think there are any bosses. But in terms of making the relationship work, I think it starts with the parents because eventually when they grow older, the balance could be more or less equally distributed.
Q) How do you deal with times when you get demotivated? Is there any strategy you use to come out of such situations?
Riddhi Deorah- Honestly, till today, I have never got demotivated even once. Not even for a second have I felt that this is not something I want to do because I think that God has been guiding and it’s always been on the positive train.
But more than that, I feel that there’s never a day when I go to bed. I don’t feel fulfilled about my work because even if one mother sends you a message that I made her feel better, it gives me a sense of satisfaction that I could help somebody, even if it’s one person in a day. So I don’t feel motivated.
But yes, sometimes I feel overwhelmed, which means that I think that there is so much that needs to be done that happens from time to time. When this happens, I take a break or stop whatever I’m doing and try to calm myself down and get back to my state before I start doing anything.
When you consume the energy which you create, it stays longer. It gets captured and helps make of the state of mind you are in. So I never force myself to do it if I’m in that state of mind; when I get back to my normal state, that’s when I start.
Through her work, Riddhi Deorah aims to spread knowledge to as many mothers as shepossiblehe urges parents not to be hesitant to reach out to parent coaches like her to make their parenting journey fruitful.
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